I read quite a few adoption blogs - blogs by birthmoms & adoptive moms. I've noticed a trend of calling the adoptive mom "Mom" and then the birthmom by her first name. I guess in my mind, I've always just thought we'd both be called mom. Maybe I would be just "mom" and our child's birthmom would be "mom __(insert first name or nick name)__".
Now, I'm wondering why that isn't more common? The adoptive moms' blogs I read are confident, secure women. They have good relationships with their birthmoms and don't seem intimidated or afraid of each other. So, I don't think that is really factor. Maybe because the child could be confused?
I haven't read about this in any of our adoption books yet either. I think I need to find some adoption books specific to open adoption rather than just general adoption books. (Of which some have been seriously frustrating... but I suppose that is a post for another day.)
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